Dealing with Differences - Up To Know Good on Tuesday

Dealing with Differences
Up To Know Good on Tuesday

November 28, 2006

fork in the road

Matt, Tonya, and I had been nearly inseparable for months, so I was surprised one evening when they announced a problem. They disagreed with me about some of the spiritual beliefs I had recently shared with them. They felt that unless I changed, we could no longer be close. I was shocked and hurt, but I knew I hadn’t done anything wrong. We simply disagreed on what seemed to me to be a minor point of theology. To Matt and Tonya, it was a friendship-ending issue.

Do Good - If you have lost a friend because of differences, consider how you feel about it now. Is it resolved for you? If not, pray, write a letter (that you don’t send), or talk to an uninvolved third party to deal with any hurt or unresolved feelings and thoughts you may have.

I missed my friends, but I had peace about our separation. I hadn’t compromised on my beliefs to save a friendship, and neither had they. We were never close again. At times I am still sad about that until I remember a phrase I learned from another friend. She said, “Some friends are for a season, some for a reason, and some for a lifetime.” I don’t know who originally said it, but it rings true. When we come to the end of a friendship, may God give us the ability to let go with integrity and peace.

“They [Paul and Barnabus] had such a sharp disagreement that they parted company.” Acts 15:39. Click to read about their disagreement.

God, it’s so hard to lose a friend. Give me wisdom in situations when dealing with differences means going separate ways.

Know Good. Do Good. Feel Good.


I pray that you have a great day as you experience and express God's love in fresh, real ways!


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